Absolutely. Best wishes.

Sometimes doing what you think is best feels really bad. It’s hard to face doing things that are difficult. I know what I want long term and I’m able to visualize the best outcomes coming from all this work. It’s the actual climbing of the mountains in between your current state and the potential outcomes that are difficult. Challenging is not strong enough of a sentiment.

That’s a whole lot of nonsense I’ve written right there, eh?

Practical application is this… I wrote a letter to the “other woman” involved in my husbands emotional affair. I told her exactly why she was persona non grata for years, how her behavior was seen and how it impacted us. It was a bit of a smack down, yes. I can honestly admit that to my readers here, my husband and most important — myself.

I wrote it as an exercise to purge the events in chronological order, organizing my thoughts around these events. Then I sat on it. I read it aloud to Stephen, first draft. Sent him an email copy of the second draft. Then shared how the final draft looked after I sent it. He saw the whole process. Transparency was important here.

I just pulled the trigger today and emailed her. Something that took me forever to write, to refine to just the right tone and words. I got three words back. “Absolutely. Best wishes.”